ORIGINALLY PRESENTED SO LONG AGO - I've simply lost the beginning of it. So I reintroduce it completely re-written... again (and again)

It was so long ago that I settled upon... the big bold words below; are they a tactical credo? A mere code of conduct, a motto or goal? So it was so long ago I made an almost subconscious decision to come upon a way to, at best make an attempt to, bend my thinking towards a more open ended understanding of just what the heck-n-doodles was going on around me or inside of you... And being so long ago, quite truly I feel it necessary to once again and always important for me to examine these words I so often claim to, you know... honestly live by.

Now, I don't want to get all hung up on what I find ridiculously to be the true meaning of words. I admit that I too often will bend words and break them and make up new words as often as I can. Quilte illiterally as frequently as need be to better express, or sometimes veil the meaning in my expression of this notion or that from this time to that time, time and time again. But; this word empathy, seemingly so intrinsically tied to this tactical credo or code of conduct of mine... I thought maybe we should look up it's most accepted definition... at least according to the sources I've found...

Can one truly achieve this level of empathy required to meet the objective of my hoity-toity high falutin credo motto-esq code of conduct for it to be put into practice? Perhaps not but can one truly try? I guess I can really only answer this on behalf of my own way of thinking by way of a reminder of the mechanisms I see available to me to imbue my thought process with this sought after feeling that I understand and share another person's experience and emotions...

Stopping for a moment to acknowledge, I could be standing in the exact same spot as you, well scientifically speaking, in actuality, I'd likely be standing just a little to the left or right and back a step or two from where you're located when say, that calamity happened around us and thus I hadn't truly nor really shared in your experience at all. Heck as it were, we may not have even shared in the horrors of horrors or that feeling of joy what-so-ever... If I'm not mistaken, you may even have been giggling, even if only perhaps out of some distorted sense of your own discomfort rather than any half baked and moribundish old glee... note the made up words with no meaning. Really, who am I to know?

Well, I do try to listen... But, as we all know, listening is an art that even if somewhat perfected is intermittent and subject to whatever distraction takes over us at any given moment like that pretty bird over their or as distracting the misprinted word "their" or the thoughts of "I wonder what's for dinner" that just crossed my mind.

Why of course, I do read things... although completely aware that my comprehension of what I've just read or am reading is so completely infused by what I've experienced and heard from so many others I could hardly claim to know just how accurate my understanding of these words I've just read let alone just written are accurate in any way shape or form... accuracy in comprehension, a measure of even the remotest of possibility? What's your experience with this? Be honest, I'm sure you've read into the white bits on these pages as well.

So, in any first hand experience, the second placed conversation or the third possibility of even best read opportunities how could I possibly have every begun to know what you're thinking let alone feeling, this seems impossible to me at this time, to you, no?

...so here's where I let you in on a way out of all this open doored and quite obvious of deepest brightly lit secrets of mine. I kinda believe empathy to be an impossible to obtain but definitely one of the more cherished of ideals to be pursued; even if ever so slightly. Simply, if I find myself not pursuing empathy then I'll usually quite easily finding myself settling on a hardened opinion that might upset me or someone I feel close to at the time. I should also admit that over the years, It's been quite heavily ladened upon me that settling for anything less than perfection is unacceptable even when one knows it's impossible to achieve.

So, I strive for perfection and a level of empathy I know I'll never find simply in the hope that my opinions albeit often presented too strongly are tempered with my own personal understanding that they have no real meaning until I'm fully aware of another's feeling which I'll never truly share even slightly let alone completely. But even after thinking this, quite simply... why would I ever stop trying to learn something different. Although I often imply it, why would I ever think my way of thinking or anyone else's opinions, notions or beliefs however different from the ones I'm currently contemplating can be any worse, equal to or better than mime?

Worse yet, if I give up on this attempt at this imperfected pursuit of my idealized impression of an empathic understanding of even the one's I instantly perceive adversarial, might I miss the opportunity for a better understanding of this pursuit in the first place? So, I openly argue while trying to listen and let it all jumble about in my thinking until as much I can at any given moment let it all percolate and boil in back of my brain while I wait for an answer that likely won't come as we sit here and talk about things we disagree on and enjoy one another's company in full flourished understanding that anything said is to be tempered by a the spirit that both of us are deeply concerned with an understanding of the other's ideas, notions and opinions... Of course, in full appreciation and with fully disclosed knowledge and agreement that these feelings, thoughts, notions, opinions and even, egads those dreaded belief systems are subject to change... without notice.

...it's only the notion, rarely the belief that totally counts in what I might be sayin', OK? And really quite truly if possibly vaguely I'm so glad to have met you and shared in your notions both the ones we've agreed on as equally as those we have not... and quite often it's the latter that makes it the more exciting to have these conversations that change our impressions of things we've just noticed as we stumble towards meeting the next person willing to share something they're thinking, 'cause that's all we got.

hmmmm... that's it. For now.

I'm finding it really quite hard to gather any honest to goodness interests in just how fast one man or one woman can hurtle themselves down some sloped patched of manufactured snow on a pair of super duperly, high-technically designed pair of used to be wooden old slats. I just recently stopped truly caring too much over how many pieces of vulcanized rubber this group or that could dump into the mesh over that group or this... 

Unlike years past where I could easily muster a small thrill in watching some surprisingly un-awkward yet totally boney, under-slept-over-worked out to near death poor little young lady wearing even by Las Vega standard's some skimpy flesh toned thingy twirl herself around by only her toes nearly three and a half times... it's funny how happy I'd feel when surprisingly they just didn't fall down, and how equally sad if they'd only manage a mere two and a half spins.

I suppose it's nice that we've overcame those nastier times when one other's countries "endless war" in some same old sad places simply meant that the kids from many other places quite frankly wouldn't come out to play... but.

I guess given this embarrassingly unabashed pride filled pointing and laughing stock stories of shitty old toilets and the black-widow muslim boogeyman women that seem to frame these games in a tired old subplot has left me with even littler interest in watching some young Frenchman swell up when they hoist "his" tricolor red white and blue as I do to watch some other man get all resentfully-misty when some very nice fella or gal defiantly waves "their" little striped rainbow... meh.

I guess I'll wait for the Brier to get this year's curling fix.

Originally Aired Out on Tumblr: Jannuray 22nd, 2013

The other day, I got a marvellous opportunity to have a relatively lengthy conversation with an Amish-Mennonite… stuck at the bus terminal, a small nightmare and, (another story)… AND, after another misguided major hissy-fit and outburst of random vitriol and complaining to the we-have-no-service-to-give agent of the Greyhound Bus Lines and Abuse Company…

I noticed “Jake” and his wife directly behind us in line, and asked them, “where are you NOT-headed today?” (Jake’s name has been changed to protect the reality that I have no short term memory these days). "We're off to Pennsylvania" Jake replied (exactly as suspected).

I’ve ridden the buses all over Ontario and Upstate NY with the Amish for years; never had the opportunity to ‘brake’ the silence. Jake’s replying to me was the first offer "in" I'd ever to got to get into a mucky-muck and yack-it up with a man in one of those hand-sewn suits. Jake and I kibitzed about the community here as compared to the community there. He was from there, but had moved here; I think probably because they’d run out of space there. He was fascinated to hear my experience and take on 9/11 in the city… I obliged him some personal insights and saw my sharing this with him as my "in" to ask even more of him, “…so, do many of your kids ever leave the community… what’s the response in the community, do they come back?”

"Oh sure, there are a few young ones who decide they need to see what it’s like out here…" 

He implied that most of them do wander back eventually. He was amazed that any of us could put up with the “out here”…he seemed fascinated by “out here”, but with no honest interest in it whatsoever. He was a very pleasant fella, eager to chit chat, not a single disparaging word over my having one son against his fathering five… plus another five girls type sons.

We chuckled when he assured me “he had no internets”… imagine, a life without the memes.

His wife, seemed nice and somewhat seemingly younger than how old she looked; smiled as we spoke. Out of deference to my understanding of their practices, I did not speak to her directly, didn’t ask her any questions but darted my eyes and threw her a glance or two to welcome her into mine and Jake’s conversation… she never once spoke but she smiled, nodded now and again. She had a nice, strong quiet smile.

I still know very little about the Amish-Mennonite, is it a, faith? Jake informed me it was ancient, of German and Christian origin… definitely Christian. Was his quiet wife happy behind her smile and her hand-fashioned blue bonnet? Later, after we’d been lead back to the chairs in the waiting room, I found her furiously scrawling notes onto a well worn stack of papers… recipes? A to do list? Which of the chicken’s needed to be fed which kids need to be bathed, hugged or spanked… her thoughts, her prayers, her stories? I’ll never know.

I’ll never know if she’s a happy women. I’ll never know if she’s fulfilled, complete… whether she wears her blue bonnet because she wants or needs to, whether its because she’s been told to or if its all she really knows. All I could ever hope would be to translate her smile and assume… she’s happy… enough.

Now comes the meme part (pictured above)… An image circulating over the inner-nets via Facebook sideways-ly asking the difference between nuns and prostitutes; not really a question but a comment… really. I caught it yesterday as it floated around these nets, it had landed on the page of yet another wise and learned old friend. I’m finding a lot of learned old friends succumbing to these “simplicities” these days… post and re-post of silly little thoughts framed as images... this “is it of any real value?” activity… is it? Not for me to say, yet.

On nuns and prostitutes…

I’m lucky, perhaps; my folks being of the more wiser faith that broke from Rome ages ago in order to allow our English King to fuck around as he pleases… I’ve never had been whipped, ruler-slapped, degraded or had the Jesus beaten into me by a woman in a penguin suit as many of my friends whose parents are among those that follow the man with the pointed hat, have. I've never shrinked at the mere mention of Sister Mary, Margaret or Pearl.

My most significant interactions with “the nuns” was wishing them a good and glorious morning as they collected the NY Times from the doorstep of Our Lady of Pompeii (my local nunnery in NYC) as I read my news and waited for the start of the market on Bleecker Street on all those good and glorious Saturday and Sunday mornings. These nuns always had a warm smile… that blue-bonnet smile. Their glorious morning was at the grace and the glory of their god - That my glorious morning was at the grace of the interaction of sunlight and water vapour, was really of no mind. Just a couple of friendly people commenting on the pleasantness of a quiet moment in the Village. I claim no real insights into… the Amish nor the nuns.

I’ve had far more “interaction” with prostitutes really. Conversations and questions asked… I’ve shared coffee talk with some of the gals in near the Zeedyk, and have had friends who (in a roundabout way) admitted to having had taken up the trade in support of this venture… or that. Mostly to pay a bill to, sigh… that guy over there. I've heard a few tall tales of “empowerment” and more sad stories of utter coercion. I've concluded that it is nasty business… either way. Suffering to service us assholes some call “men”… I don't know, pour me another doubleshot tall macchiato with a dollop of steam, now… We can discuss it further (just let me check in with my clients, first)…

I've found myself troubled by this meme (pictured above) which seems to ask over the prostitionary aspects of the institution of the nunnery… troubled on a multiple of levels. Faith, women, self will… choice and possibly the context of it landing on a dear and learned friend’s timeline in of itself. But beyond and beside all this I just find it to be… mean. 

As a man, I have to ask myself… what good comes of my asking over the wisdom of choices of a woman? Who am I to make what can only be seen as judgemental inquiries in either the practice of being a nun OR a prostitute? Who am I to add my male voice to the voices of clergy, the husband, the client… the pimps, that ring in these women’s minds? Most certainly I can address and raise concerns and comment on the coercion I've seen in the latter… but question the faith of the former? Equate this faith with what I perceive to be the sadness in the life of prostitution? …never really able to raise a concern without seeming to make a judgement, at all.

Perhaps this meme raises a point I am missing… I have been known to miss a point or few. I guess all I can really hope is for that the woman in the penguin suits, the blue bonnets or in whatever the prostitutes wears or doesn't is able to speak out and seek out some help and guidance. Able to inform us that their choice was not wise, that their choice was not THEIRS, and that their smile, blue-bonnet or otherwise is not genuine… If they do, I hope they've find us giving them a place to go.

No?

What an absolute odd day to be re-exploring such an old notion as… A day when, perhaps in any number of ways (depending on how you look at it). I'm just so quite frankly, "full of it..." In-bitten-smitten and in many ways fit to be tied up and lost in ...this thing both struggled with and missed at exactly same old time....

It's odd how so many people are so easily scared off by the word, Love. As a concept, as an emotion, as the fluid expression of how two or how many more people may feel about each other. If kept simple, it's simply wonderful, no? Simply as complicated as any one of us who may have felt it might know. That thing you know you know you feel, felt, lost or regained, even.


Having been recently asked, "So, do you believe in love at first sight?" I was inclined to recently answer: "believe in it? I swear by it." How could any two people embarking upon even the easiest of paths together, in any form or another, not first conclude, or at least concede that they are in, Love? Maybe?

Indeed the storybook version of "Love" (cue heart strings); like so many other storybooks mankind has written to explain things that we cannot, and likely should-not be explained, is simply that, merely a storybook. Not to say, who doesn't enjoy a good story? - Conceding that indeed, like with many notions, the moment a man begins to speak of or transcribe it, the concept of Love simply begins to decay under it's own... words.

I find myself, truly, with nothing much more left to me other than these… stories. Stories sung to the tune of, oh my goodness "Not Another Silly Love Song". Listen though, what's wrong with one man's storybook fantasy, Love? Perhaps this love-story of his was drawn from one of his own fleeting experiences with Love; one fleeting experience in what is now in the history of mankind, literally an almost infinite number of experiences we've all shared with Love over the eons… Me, I read with pleasure, this man's, storybook experience; but neither seek nor hope to share in it. For, beyond popular belief (or just the disbelief of my ex-lovers), I've had so many millions of my own experience with… Love. None of which where particularly anything close to "storybook" (despite each of them a good story, and others, simply, the greatest story EVER told).

Broken down into these pre-owned and personal experience of mine; the love I've shared with the hundreds if not thousands of people I've bumped into over these fifty+ years is impossible to categorize, explain or describe. I mean, how do I express the love I've felt for the woman who gave up her seat up for another, perhaps older gentleman or perhaps pregnant woman on the A,C,E, or F trains? How do I compare that love to the nearly but not "storybook" loves I've felt for the women and men I've been in love with over all these years? Loves that were, are still is, totally alive and is, are, were so often if not always changed with each moment; never the same thing twice for any more than an instant; loves that have peaked with and dipped with every breath, wink smile and frown… every tug-o-war like gentle drawing embrace?

What? Am I being too flexible? Not rigid enough as to codify and compare? Let me expand just a milli-ounce-n-meter further. Given that I have... actually, the word is do… Given that I do, in one manner or another Love everyone I have known, met or even simply been in the presence of and/or even just heard about… does this diminish Love? Does the fact that I cannot truly be angry with someone, dare say I cannot even truly hate someone who I do not Love, simply remove any and all meaning from the simple little word, concept emotionally fluid expression of how two or many more people may feel about each other, huh?

I propose (if only for one day), and even more demandingly simply exclaim, maybe, it should not.

I propose (if only for one day), that we understand Love not as a series of the other's influences nor the outcomes of being in love; attraction, hurt… joy, etc., ad-infinitum. I propose (if only for far more than one day), that we build no expectations into, make no measure of it; simply feel it in whatever form the moment offers, or demands if you will, if you like. Invite it to be the constant "ether/or" in which ways we decide to go about our days, duties and relationships with one another. Tap into Love's powerful ability to help us sort out that which cannot be sorted but simply ask nothing specific of it. Simply let it be there. Enjoy it… after all isn't Love really all any two or more people have to share with each other, truly, I mean other than "likes"?

Love, maybe it IS just a stupid, little, sometimes frightening word used far too often and not nearly enough.

Toronto, that beautifully marvellous mid-western provincial-like territorial capital that's just across from, and one lake down over from that other sister-city with rivers on fire that some call the other "Mistake on the Lake"… and immediately I find myself not able to help myself from taking that first silly slap. It's a love slap really, slapped if only to watch you wiggle and wriggle uncomfortably comfortable under those oh-two-too brightly polished "9th most costly" and "5th most biggested" badges that you wear so apparently proudly upon a big puffy old chest that really ought to be proud of… so much many more things.

And, now, let's listen quite closely; this is barely a mere lament born from my time spent living much more fast n' furiously for fifteen some years in that brightly lit and little bit bigger city than Toronto sometimes too often so fool-heartedly still compare itself too, indeed now, too too often. Please enough already with that one. Can we not just come to an understanding that comparing "a place" to another like that is as futile as say comparing an apple to a somewhat too harshly seasoned steaming stew of cabbage, hog-roots and other sleepy vegetables?

Nor is this really a lament in anyway at all… AND, this is certainly not my conceding I no longer need "the glorious hectic"; just jump into my mind for even just one moment; you'll find that "the hectic" remains a very real and important part of my little old and not so quiet… thinking… No, this is about you, Tarrana, not me nor my other olden places, my cities of ghosts and other true lovers. This is about the place I do enjoy kicking around, if just for a bit, and for whom I will always adore in some smaller but still kind kind of fashion…

A way that becomes much clearer, as I make my way around these sharpened corners and down your long streets and back garage laneways; or while driving with expertise n' ease, like the calm master magician; as I stop-n-park my car in my old empty, still available, just off Niagara, surprisingly free-before-four-parking spot; and while I do grumble at your way more polite than need be and way too long traffic signals… or as I un-quietly sit here and watch your own gorgeous interpretation of "the glorious hectic" unfold around me on this current perch in one of now hundred no, thousands of fine coffee-spots. This way that comes clearly as I wander your street like another of my ex-wives once told me… simply as this semi coherent and conscientious ex-resident and well, "well informed tourist".

Most certainly I lament the loss of my old hideaways n' haunts as this almost ridiculous rash of poorly thought out or thought-through glass boxy towers sprout like weeds in the cracks of my long ago lost, over and done with past-pleasures... but I do applaud your desire for this wondrous new density! You always were and now will be forever almost one of the few remaining downtown-ier of places. It would seem that attracting these oh-so many more people with the lure of way too high rents for cramped little boxes that seem ready to disintegrate in mere moments… A plan that seems so wise, at least on the surface that it makes me scratch my head in wonder why you pro-public-transporters, you long always so suffering downtown bicycle riders yourselves, why? ...growl so bitterly loudly over these new found shiny new-neighbours of yours.

Why of course it's not the place I left not so not long enough ago. What good city ever stays the same way twice or for too long at that? But everything seems to be more or less left when and where I'd left it; AND this is no reason to wonder why I find the notion of re-settling down at the foot of and just west off that northbound don-parkway I once drove away on, with an impromptu instantaneously and remotely un-satisfying ejaculation of utter glee… Drove away on while pumping my fist in the air in celebration and screaming "finally". Leaving the place I had always loved but had almost immediately always, almost with every breath meant to leave the moment I started driving hard n' fast roots into the loves, moneys and mirages of so many of my first marriages and other first things that I did.

Would I ever return to plant new roots in this old place I had so happily left? The direct answer for my seeing no need to re-settle… Perhaps it's just plainer and simpler to say, quite honestly... Have I ever really "settled" for anything as yet? How could settling-back n' backwardly into your happy version of this silly little "the gloriousness of your interpretation of hectic", settle anything for me? - Of course, having so very few rules, I rule absolutely nothing out. ...I'll just quietly continue to masquerade my love of this little city behind silly derisions because it's plain, stupidly, silly and jolly good fun, with a Capital-T… And of course getting the opportunity to put on that giggly goofball grin I get on my face when I watch one of your good folks squirm under the blinding glare of those oh too two polished medals… of pride.

Lastly... to the much younger once was me, all the little-now-young fellas n' gals and the future boys and girls. By all means I applaud and encourage you in your desires to flee from those small worlds you've grown up inside of. Run and GO join into these circuses we call our great cities; although, I do worry that we're sadly breeding out what I'd call the really cool, spontaneously local and cleverest of fun-places… but that thought's just likely the old man inside me, worrying over no real changes what-so-ever. I'm sure they're are fun-spot-places for you in the all of these here's I've so happily called homes… and then once again… I'm drawn back to a thought still half thunk I had only just a little while ago… There really are just FAR far too many reasons for me to miss the great cities in which I've lived and called homes… BUT at exactly the same moment, so many more or least just as many good reasons to enjoy finding myself, exactly where I am here and now.

And for right now… we'll just GO to Toronto, every once in a while!

Original aired out to dry: July 4th, 2013 - On Tumblr

I think most of my American pals who know me, know exactly how much I love, adore, respect, admire and, did I say love, the United States of America. Now, many of them may be scratching their heads of late, wondering why I’ve been so-shitting on the head of the now sitting Presidenté… Simple… hmmm, ok maybe not so…  I think a New York Yankee’s analogy might work best here…
 
It’s kinda like when when my Yankee’s signed A-Rod; good numbers at bat, OK fielding, BUT… he’s a stinkin' prima-donna-pretty-boy, a whining C H E A T E R. He’s cheated on the field, he’s cheated on his wife (the love of his life?) He likely even, praise be, cheated on the Madonna… I was never happy that he was added to our team; at such a cost, oh such a cost… 
 
That said, I don’t judge a team by it’s so-called best, better yet, top most paid player. Just as I’d not have you judge my country of Canada by it’s Prime Minister, I’ll not judge the greatest of nations, the nation of friends on it’s choices, good or bad in who is to serve the puppet masters as Presidenté.

ON THIS DAY July 4th - I simply say… BE INDEPENDENT! - I beg you! 

The declaration we celebrate today is in my humblest of opinions simply the last most recent, most important step forward for mankind; don't step backwards… BE INDEPENDENT, don’t let the Madison Avenue scum-bags spin their yarns that makes you trust these THUGS you liked a day or two ago. Don’t get lost in your own older choices, don’t hold yourself to it… you’re obliged to “evolve”… Think about it.
 
You know I love each and everyone of you so-called Republican’s, you declared Democrats, free-wheelin’ Libertarian Tea-totin’ TeaNuts and all you oh so progressive… Collectivist-Hippies. I love each and everyone of you who has looked past the clutter of the casual meme of the day and expressed some form of personal opinion on this and/or that; bitch-screamed, yelled… heck even whined a bit… Proves functionality, your warranty’s intact. THINK INDEPENDENTLY!
 
BE even MORE INDEPENDENT, don’t settle, find time in your busy day to sit back, take a good long questioning American look at what was just said and be willing to say, BULLSHIT, it’s only ever half right left of center. STAY FREE of mind, and don’t let those who want you to be lazy, treat you to the comforting comfort of your own good god damned (even if it is deserved) laziness… YES you CAN have only one potato chip, it’s YOUR choice, not theres!
 
I pledge you ONE thing as a lover of America with an American son; I will NEVER let this son of mine see his birthright as a some sort of free pass, ticket or free-lunch. Wherever we bring him up, he will be taught that he has NO right to live in his homeland unless he’s willing to contribute… at least half as much as his mother has contributed in pursuit of her own cherished citizenship. He will be told not only to LOVE America, but know WHY he loves America, as both his Mother and Father do (for exceptionally different yet absolutely similar reasons I might add)… 
 
Of course, we will leave up to him to come up with his own reasons why he Love’s America. We’ll give him a fair start, leave him on his own… Leave him to his own gosh-given INDEPENDENT notions… as to why he loves the country he’s a yet-to-be-earned citizen of.
 
Gloriously gushing RANT. OFF, enjoy your (our human) INDEPENDENCE DAY. Celebrate it… then get back out there on (Monday) and get back to work or what ever you love doing… This Monday, get back to earning this INDEPENDENCE of (y)ours. 
 
I LOVE YOU! - Now... WAKE UP please!

Original posted upon: unclegogo.com (long defunct) - May 8th, 2007

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The Arrow was one of a number of smaller theoretically "car-top-able" sailboats that came out of the 1970’s to replace the aging Sunfish and challenge the Laser’s growing dominance in the category. A two man sloop rigged (kind of a pig of a) boat designed and built in Belleville Ontario, it boasted just a little bit more sail area and a whole lot more beam than the Laser; and of course, it was two-MAN. This extra beam (width for you land-locker'd folks), provided a bit more stability for the less accomplished sailor; but added a lot more weight and one huge problem in-so-much as... if you went over, you were definitely going to turtle.

Turtling your dinghy is one royal big-assed pain in the butts. For those who don’t know what the heck I’m talking about… A well designed boat, when capsized will rest a beam on the water, the balance of buoyancy in the hull to the configuration of the rigging allows the mast and sail, now resting in the water, to prevent the boat from turning past 90 degrees. Righting a typically simply capsized boat is a snap; simply crawl out onto the centre-or-daggerboard and and let your body weight bring the boat upright… most people can with very little skill or effort... Many of us, eh-hem can capsize and right a Laser without getting wet. Heck we’d capsize our boats between races take a breather, rest and eat on the board.

Turtling is when the capsized boat tips beyond 90 degrees… Think, mast pointing straight down, centreboard pointing straight up… To right a turtled boat, you basically have to stand on the gunnels, jump up and down and reef on the centreboard with all your strength… I’ll give you a pointer here, for future reference, if and when you go and… turtle: try positioning the boat in such a way that the waves will hit the boat perpendicular, assisting in the righting motion… meh, I’ll let you figure that out.

The Arrow we had in our backyard, was one of two my dear ol' dad was trying out as potential boats to add to the aging fleet our sailing club used for its junior sailing program. I can’t remember why we kept these boats in the backyard; but regardless, there they were, at my disposal, and I used them best I could…. seeing that, at the time I was nine, and not yet enrolled in sailing school. I usually used one of them, without sails as a swimming platform. My father would take me out under sail from time to time... I must note that dear ol' dad is an exceptional… sailor (and dad).

Given the extra beam and the extra weight and extra stability of the Arrow; it really wasn’t that fun a boat to sail for an exceptional sailor, definitely not so in lighter winds. In heavy air, it could be a good ride, probably even better for the little kid joyriding while his dear ol' dad set out and ended up on a honking reach; planing, maybe catching the odd good wave and doing a bit of surfing (reaching is a point of sail, tenfold more exciting on a Laser)… I don’t recall too many time my dear ol' dad taking me out in a good fresh breeze but I do remember one time more than the others…

I recall it was a gloriously sunny day in late spring. My dad had had a few extra beers; I never recall being all that concerned whether dear ol dad had had too many or two few beers, to me my dad, most men in may family and those in and around the place where either drinking a beer or working on something, or at work... Beer was at the "head-end" of that most consistent and enjoyable of assignments growing up… Forget mowing the lawn or shovelling the snow, chores I actually adored “…get me a beer” was the clarion-call, an invitation to "be involved" that I could hear from anywhere in the yard, down the lane or three, four houses down at some buddies place... the call to grab a cold one from the fridge, run it over to him, or maybe struggle with three or four for him and his pals; AND get a great big thank you from the guys... Most e-specially to get that big ol’ thank-you from that one guy who ultimately was at the absolute dead-center of my entire my existence, my universe… What Canadian boy doesn’t enjoy getting his dad a cold beer.

The fateful day we went for "that sail", that gosh darned damned n' glorious day the wind was blowin’, the sun was shiny; I helped best I could as my dad rigged up the Arrow. I most likely would have already squeezed into the old keyhole Kapok life jacket…

NOW, let's pause here for just a quite painful moments... LIFE jacket is kind of a misnomer for what passed as a life jackets back in the 70s. Look at it this way; for theoretical buoyancy, they used this weird shredded theoretical vegetable matter called kapok, which was theoretically sealed into plastic bags that theoretically kept this weird fiber-ery like fluffy stuff dry and theoretically buoyant. These plastic bags, which were usually perforated and waterlogged after the first year or so of use, were sewn into puke orange fabric; sewn into a shape that strongly resembled stocks used to detain and display prisoners over in the town square in medieval times. Putting on a life jacket back in the 1970s was essentially the same as being sentence to the stocks for stealing a loaf of bread from the baker back in 1678 (before there even was, a Canadian boy.

I have absolutely positive memories of setting out on this sail with my father. Despite being hobbled in this puke orange kapok bloated water logged torture thingy ma-jiggy; I recall, I was having a blast. We were probably just sailing back and forth across the two mile stretch, shore to shore on this lake we called the Bay of Quinte. For me, miles out in the big bay would have been just as easily the greatest adventure I'd had up to that point, early in my 9th year (my birthday is in may, this was spring... let's say eight years, minus all those years I didn't yet know what adventure might be...) I’m sure my dad was just sailing reach to reach in order to maximize the, speed and fun; giving his boy yet another dose of the thrill of sailing… the first step in teaching your boy to be a good sailor is after all... fun.

…and, any good sailor can capsize a boat. Its not the end of the world; the boat tips, you get wet, right the boat and sail on. Heck, we’d do it ten times on purpose, simply for fun later when we’d go for a sail after sailing school class or before the start or after the finish of a race… (note to the land locked; many of whom can only imagine a tipped over boat an ultimate disaster, get over it, it's called taking a swim).

My dear ol' dad claims that the hiking straps popped loose, and that he unexpectedly flipped off over the side of our Arrow; who knows, over we went. Now, this claim of a some part breaking; it’s happened to me, AND considering the chain of events that happened next, is an absolutely believable claim; one I will testify in support my dear ol' dad over to this day. 

My father has made even wilder claims about even wilder accidents in his life; some, well one surrounding the wilder events in which his neighbour lit his garage on fire just as my father noticed the ninny was using an electric pump to drain the gas out of the tank in his car in order to effect some repair or that that or what not… That claim, which I also support, resulted in my father’s leg looking like a side of beef after 3rd degree burns and months of skin grafting surgery professionally meted out by the medics at the Canadian Armed Forces base in Calgary… So… my dad's bigger than YOUR dad, AND my dad’s not one to make false claims.

...oh right, over we went.

Like I said, no big deal; ‘cept for the Arrow, as you recall, being the worse piece of naval architecture described earlier, beamier than expected… Rather than a fun little dunking on an otherwise enjoyable day of a sailing with dear ol' dad… It was... heck, I’m probably certain sure my dear ol' dad could have righted even the beamy ol' Arrow quickly if he didn’t first have to collect his boy. Me, the boy, now floating around in the Bay of Quinte, bobbing around like the town drunk in a puke orange torture devise; able to kick my legs but no more than half heartedly flap my arms. Perhaps if I could have actually moved these arms, I may have been able to either keep hold of, or swim back to the boat on my own. Yet still, I was already a great swimmer, well on my way to my winter's career on the life guard chair; if I weren't wearing the damned so-called life jacket... As I was being collected by my dad, the Arrow turtled.

Again, NOT that big of deal. My dad being quite a burly man and “way stronger than your dad”, could have easily stood on the gunnels and yanked the Arrow back upright with little effort. 

Here’s were things started going somewhat more wrongly than would be expected…

First off, the mast step on the Arrow proved to be, well lets just say, quite horrendously flawed. The mast step on a Laser is a 14 inch deep hole in which you put the ‘stay-less’ mast and tie it down with the cunningham which, working double duty as a devise to allow you to control the luff tension on the sail AND hold the mast tight to the boat. The mast step on the Arrow, was a ‘deck step’; a small pin held the mast to the deck, tensioned into place, theoretically by the shrouds and forestay… theoretics where at play when our mast popped out of its step, and although not separating itself from the boat, basically sank to act as an anchor helping to keep us, upside down.

Add to this the centreboard falling out; AND it funny enough, not being made of something that might float, it sank… Then, me, being a wee little guy, how could I NOT assumed we were in quite a jam; AS a matter of fact, from what I’ve been told, I did what any just barely 9 year old kid would have done; even if that barely 9 year old kid weren’t being held in bondage, strapped into the terror device now soaked through, weighing twice it’s weight in kapok and probably no more able to keep me afloat than say, one of the empty beer bottles I had neatly stacked back into its case on the way to getting my old man and his buddies another couple of beers before we went out for this damned sail… what any barely 9 year old kid would have done... I started crying; AND, from what they tell me, I started crying out for help!

I’ve always counted myself lucky. I grew up with great friends in a great small town; surrounded by about 10 gazillion things to do and parents who basically not only let me do them, but suggested that I give each and every one of them all a try. I’m sure I’m not the only boy who can remember his dad being the absolute center of their universe, I think I may be a  bit luckier than some, not as lucky as others but, either way, I do remember the exact moment that this center of this universe of mine was shaken, turned if not upside down, then kinda sideways; the exact moment I began questioning just how stable this bloody universe of mine was.

Here I was, wet, weighed down, crying and crying out for help while our disabled vessel of doom bobbed up and down in the waves. To me, the outlook appeared pretty grim and just a little dim. Our chances of survival, quite bleak; here I was, most likely assessing the situation and realizing the chances of ever enjoying mom’s Friday night’s Mac & Cheese dinner to be pretty much… nil. AND then, here’s dear ol dad… bobbing around with the boat, telling me to STOP crying, AND “stop calling out for help, ya ninny”! WHAT??? I’m basically a goner, a universally tilted dead man-boy and this crazy old fools using his last gulp of breath… his dying words, to call me a ninny! Some universe this turned out to be…

…in the end; indeed, me and my dad survived the ordeal. As my father knew all along; we simply floated up on the far shore within’ a half hour or so of our home on the other side of the great little lake we called the Bay of Qunite. He collected and stowed the various bits and pieces that remained of the Arrow, disengourged me from my (near-end-of-life) jacket and walked up to the house of the folks on whose shore we’d washed and call my mom. He had her bring the car around, she'd hitched up a the trailer, and we carted the whole mess, including poor little old me... home.

It was probably on my dad’s recommendation that the club NOT buy Arrows for the Junior sailing program, but instead bought a fleet of six Lasers. Six boats I’d grow up on, have a blast on, while screaming down the waves on a scorching plane on… Six boats, I’d capsize a hundred thousand times, 99,467 times of which, not even getting myself wet. Six boats, I’d later use along with the rest of the fleet when I ran the sailing school as head instructor for years. I’d later buy my own Laser with the money I made teaching sailing and campaign it at regattas across the lakes and waterways between Hamilton and Brockville Ontario… I don’t think they made too many Arrows... the ones in our backyard where soon disappear.

The day after my dad and I capsized the Arrow; he went out and bought me a ‘Stearn Life-Vest’. As it sounds, this was a snazzy little life VEST, zipper front, four small foam panels sewn into light weight nylon fabric, held together with light weight mesh. The back panels where black; the front red; there was a “Stern” crest on the front; all the hot sailors at our club wore stern life vests… the day after we capsized… I stopped being afraid at all of the water under any circumstance (I wasn't that too afraid before); became an the avid sailor and swimmer my dear ol' dad had hoped I'd be, AND if I think about it, perhaps the day after we capsized the Arrow was the day my dad stopped being the absolute, rock solid center of my universe and became, simply the biggest, smartest, strongest, (and at times scariest) man I’d ever know.

I recently found out the child inside my love, Roberta is a boy; he’ll be born soon… then he’ll be one, two, three… NINE, I have a huge responsibility ahead of me, AND, I know I have enormous shoes to fill!

I only hope the things we do together are as... fun as sailing.

(that's right... that's a Laser...)

Originally posted to Tumblr: June 4th, 2013

I’ve come to absolutely adore the good ol' “Founding Fathers” argument. You know the one that goes sump-tin like: When the Founding Fathers wrote, let's say... the second amendment for example, they likely didn’t envision automatic riffles with hundred round clips and those plastic x-ray deceiving Glock 9’s being available at a discount for today only's un-lawfully lowest prices on aisle six of the local Super Duper Savers Big Box Super-Store that’s you know… super. Listen, it’s an argument with which I whole-heartedly n' totally agree, to some extent… but…

I’m equally sure that Tommy Douglas, the so-called Founding Father of Canada’s Universal Health Care System/Safety-Net, was probably thinking , that maybe farmer Bob shouldn’t loose the farm when he falls from the harvester rather than pondering the notion of a machine that goes “ping” and keeps all those Super-Sized Soda slurpin’ 700lb chain smokers alive through the age of 98.7…

I expect likewise that the “founding fathers” of Social Security or the CPP didn’t envision an age of retirement set to freedom 55 with grandpa driving a JetSki at the “you’re only ripe as you think you are’ olden-age of 92.1 or 93.9; NOR could they have guessed that grandma would be wandering the senior extend-a-care centre halls not knowing her name or mine as she celebrated her 115th birthday with the gang of registered nursing assistant’s assistants who earlier that day drove her to the polls and held her hand as she put that x beside the only pol whose name anyone could remember at the moment… and their cats.

I betcha the crafters of my dear old and almost gone sentimental-capitalism didn't bank on one single corporation owned by pirates owning both the genetic sequence of 75% of the world’s cash crop and the White House at exactly the same time, OR the good fellas who put our kids into the free ‘n open over-crowded classroom thinking that the teachers union would back their membership’s demand that ritalin become the backbone of the head-in-the-cumuli curriculum as the alternative disciplinary methodology when faced with a room full of six year old boys being… rambunctious.

Yup, those founding fathers were pretty near sighted; I doubt they had once, even for a moment expected that this constitution thingy of theirs would end up being interpreted by their whining, foot stomping, not-so-great, great, great, great, great, great great grand-spoiled-babies shouting “me-me-me, and I want I want exactly everything I want and I want it right now”. Those gran-chillin’ of theirs who learned about this last years elections from Jon-Stewart Colbert the third in those 5 second remote controlled accidents as they flipped the channel from Snookie upon the “Jersey Shore” to those 8 year old re-runs of the “West Wing” that are shown at 2am on channel 12,876’s Time-warp-TV… after the evenings episode of “Pray-on-TV”.

Nope, I betcha that those founding father could only have assumed they were writing ‘dat shit down to be used by adults.

...dumb ass Foundin’ Fathers… nuttin’ but a bunch of Dead Precedents.

It's no secret that every man is going to form an opinion at one time or another. I'm no exception... Except... I've come to a softened conclusion, that there really should be no conclusions. I suppose it's common; it's quite likely that at least 50% or more of the older folks like me, folks who've reach the ripe old age of 50 have concluded that, there's simply no point in believing any of this at all. AND that any opinion one forms should remain open to... re-forming. Those others, the perhaps less than 50% of us older folks... well, we'll keep working on them.

I thought I'd better get a disclaimer up here on the "Sacred Cows" post-haste-n-quickly! Given the things I'll likely write about, things I'd like to think out loud on-n-about, get off my chest, or simply post here to store as an almost arsenal like listing of replies to be used when I entertain yet another futile battle over these inner-nets.

I've been floating a lotta crap for years now, most lost, some, if found, I may try to round out... here on the Sacred Cows. Thoughts on, you know, basic frictional things: social issues & politics. I've likely two buckets full of argument designed to engage and/or anger my good friends, and entice them into what I would hope would be healthy dialogue and/or feisty fights... 'cause, I've simply more to learn.

AND Why not "fight it out"?... what's the use of all these community-communication-social-thingies if we don't use them to express, challenge and help grow each other's interpretation of all the "it happens" happening, and all the thinkings being thunk around us. Why NOT use this inner-netty bidness to commentate our own thinkings on what the do'er are, doing around us, on our so-called behalf... meh. Why not duke it out Dookey.

Now then if you agree, here's a first things first... listen up... this is vitally important. Read the quotes below. These two are the top two by which I swear... both attributed to pretty learned young lads... 

Secondly... a little further along this page, read the letter I used to send out when troubles brewed between friends. I've paraphrased it here as I have used over and over again on social media outlets... 

Remember, I'm not trying to change your mind, rather, I'm trying to suck all the goodness out of it... My opinion is NOT my fight, I'm NOT campaigning... just expressing...

Finally, read my credo on empathy. I simply refuse to believe that any "other guy's" ideas, thoughts and even fears don't hold some validity; even IF I may totally disagree with them & you (for a time)... I can appear firm in my opinion, even hold too too dear my notions... but I'm not so rigid (yet) as to deny myself an opportunity to learn and change the ol' mind-bone. - Whew... so, with that (and these things below, let's all get on and enjoy ourselves....

...and then finally, I call it a credo... again... it's just a notion is all....

Please... if you have a comment on this OR anything you read here. If there is something you whole heartedly agree with... let me know. If something I've left here so totally offends you, LET ME KNOW, if possible... WHY. I've learned almost every single good thing from talkin', yikkity-yacking AND bitch-diddlin' in arguments with... friends!

Originally Aired: MySpace Blog, February 22nd, 2005 12:24pm

It became clear what the mission for the day would be sometime after the fog of the previous night's drinks lifted and just before I had gobbled down the last foul forkful of gooey greasy goodness at the Scorpion Diner. I had been fighting a creeping sadness all weekend, perhaps "nursing it" would be a more appropriate description. This sadness kind of blossomed early Monday morning after waking up groggy [again]; heading off to Jen's to feed our old cats... a creeping sadness, suckled on booze and left unchecked by self imposed immobility for the entire long weekend. 

The mission was indeed obvious. I had blown an opportunity to walk in the sun the day before. Spent that day cooking my special glop-n-dogfood and trying to convince myself I'd be more productive at some later point in the day, or the weekend. It snowed later that night, and today I was faced with a total gray bleakness and a six inch layer of slush covering the city. The mission would be more difficult, but perhaps, I thought, I'd be more rewarded for it. 

I gobbled down my breakfast of scorpions and headed for my Bridges. 

I had a thought of maybe recreating the epic seven bridge journey I'd made one Easter a few years back; from the 59th to the Roosevelt up n' over the Tri-boro then onto the 125th Street Bridge. The Brooklyn, Manhattan and then final, my old n' Wiley Williamsburg (the bridge of mere mortals)... na, thought better of it. I concluded that it being President's Day, my objective would be OK, ok, corny and obvious, I'd walk the George Washington Bridge... hey what the ho, maybe I could start a new holiday tradition. 

Like many of my bridge walks this one started with a hoof over the Pulaski Bridge on my way to the 7 train. As with many of these long weekend bridge walks, I got to the 7 only to find that, fuck, it was closed again! Luckily I caught a shuttle-bus right away and had a nice above ground bus trip through that beautifully ugly part of Long Island City on up to Queens Plaza. Being dumped immediately at the base of the 59th Street Bridge called out for a warm-up walk so off I went. Last time I'd done the 59th was late that same year's Christmas Eve. I had walked it at 2:30 in the morning after midnight mass at the Great Anglican (or as they call it, Episcopalian) Church in lower uptown. Now, the 59th Street is not my favorite, but probably the most meaningful, after all, it had been our means of escape a few falls back. You know, when that all happened one sunny day...

A grand old bridge, the last one built before the Ammann dynasty. Some think it ugly in it's overwhelming sturdiness, I prefer to enjoy the almost "added-on" ornamentation that tries desperately to decorate it's utilitarianism  Hey, it's MY escape bridge, the one I see out my window. A familiar old lady who has helped me out and given me a warm feeling when crossing her old crusty soul into or out of our beloved city. I only hope they don't paint the life out of the old rusty bitch over the course of her current restoration. 

As I usually do, I had ad a nice chat with the old gal as I crossed head long into a blustery sleety headwind. Exiting the 59th, on either end, is mostly un-ceremonial. The city side more so in so much as you are literally dumped into a tiny hole of an intersection with a gaggle of cars trying desperately to navigate what god himself would not have been able to design as an inner city through-fair into one that might have ever worked. [Of course, when I say god in reference to NY bridges and intersections, you do know that I am, of course referring to Moses]. 

I got the first soaker of the day stepping off the old lady and into one of the city's famous relocating pot holes. But I was undeterred and kept moving towards the President's Bridge. I half attempted to make it uptown to the GWB entirely above ground by bus. That objective came to an end when I crawled down into the hole and jumped the 1 train up to 181st street. I was bit wobbly from the 59th Street Bridge walk. I think the weekend had caught up to me and that, coupled with the miserable day, had left me a bit pooped. I think I was half hoping the GWB would be closed due to the miserably windy weather, hey at least a hole hearted attempt would have been made. As I approached the gate, it did almost looked closed, but it was just the angel (perhaps the angles), the bridge was indeed, open. SO, it had to be WALKED. 

Sometimes I do feel a little manic when in the midst of these pursuits. Other times I don't quite have that total overwhelming desire, the zeal: nor do I always get that rush of satisfaction after getting over one of these bridges. Indeed, crossing the old lady didn't whip me up n' ready for this next crossing. Maybe it was only because, of all the cities Bridges the GWB is the least personal to me; more a pursuit of triumph and conquest rather than a mystical metaphor for some fanciful moment of realization that the East River Bridges provide me. Maybe because the only thing you can really do once you cross the GWB is cross it back home again. Maybe because once crossed, you're in Jersey, an ugly bland part of Jersey at that. 

I decided on creating a rather pedestrian quest for this trip, I'd cross then go in search of a bar I could still smoke in. This pedestrian quest helped little to raise any spirituality in the moment, especially when I found out that the bridge had not been plowed. I had an almost miles walk across the damned thing through six inches of dirty brown slush while in constant fear of being blown over it's too low railing and off to my perilous death and into the Hudson. I walked hugging the roadside railing putting me on target for great globs of salty muck flying from the wheels of the cars and trucks zooming along I-95. Sleety rain had soaked my glasses and a crushing fog had all but buried the city, couldn't see a damned thing so I basically put my head down, walked in low large steps, keeping my center of gravity down and trudged my way to the Great State of New Jersey. 

I couldn't wait to get down off that Revolutionary be damned Presidential monstrosity and have that beer. 

I've already mentioned that the Jersey side of the GWB is kind of grim. I had forgotten and was totally unprepared for just how grim it would be. Fort Lee really is a frikin' wasteland. Under six inches of wet slush-n-snow, it's an annoying frikin' wasteland empty of any redeeming feature, or... bar. I found one that seemed closed, not just for the holiday, but forever. I walked through empty streets beholden of nothing more than these bleak 14 story mid rise apartment building, not built to house the poor, but rather built to house the almost poor who had no clue as to why they were alive, sad New Jersians (or is it Jersyites) who'd been given no warning that living in these lifeless slabs on this bleak side of the GWB would eventually suck the last ounce of interest in anything out of their souls. 

I finally found a renovated shopping area, unfortunately it was in a bizarrely manifested New Jersey version of Koreatown  and, unfortunately, and apparently so, Koreans in Fort Lee New Jersey don't seem to drink, hence didn't feel any responsibility to provide me a bar. I settled on the Plaza Diner, a place I'd passed earlier but moved on along on in hope I'd find a little familiar looking local. I settled for a wine at the Plaza instead of beer and was happy to see an ashtray on the counter. The waitress was nice, she showered me with the usual number of "huns", "sweeties" and the "are you going to order something now darling"'s you expect when being served at an old classic diner, in the snow, in Jersey, after walking over the damned slop-n-slush-soaked GWB. 

She even joined me in a glass of wine and gave me the heads up on how to catch a bus back to the city. 

Although I had entertained an inkling of an idea to end my day on my old buddy n pal of a good god damned good bridge, the ol' n' Willey Williamsburg; I had NO intension of walking back across the GWB. The bus ride back to the city included some nice new views I'd never seen, but after the first few miles it all started to look horribly the same. Miles and miles of busted down old discount stores peppered with the usual pizza shops, nail salons and Duane Reade drug stores. I guess I was more tired than I thought as after a time, I just stopped looking out the window, went into my head only to find my weekend companion, this sadness still hanging around, playing a game of solitaire waiting for me to get home so it could pound another shot into my stomach... 

Bridge walks are not specifically meant to lift one's spirits, they're just a nice thing to do when you have time to fill and things to think about and/or talk to yourself about. What one can think about while bridge walking is as varied as the weather one faces while making a crossing. They definitely aren't meant to cheer you up on a lonely day, AND for the most part they are a totally solo endeavor. OK, crossing with Dan has always been a pleasure, AND those very few times a special guest has followed through and joined me has been, well, special; but for the most part a bridge crossed alone, is a good bridge crossed. 

I probably did have certain expectations that a good bridge walk or two would have cleared some cobwebs and helped me deal. I guess I have just reminded myself not to have these expectation or risk diminishing a perfectly good bridge walk. Maybe I should dump a bunch of the other expectations I'm currently holding tight to, as well. Get comfy with the notion of settling in for a long bought of the "alones" with not much else to do. AND… indeed… maybe if it's nice tonight I'll walk home over the Williamsburg Bridge.

I've been up n' over and around this one so many times in the last almost 50 years... I've completely forgotten what lap of this great mad mad mad mad race I'm on... I can't recall, do I even like the "popular"? Am I drawn to the obscure? What's in it for the better of me... or is it for the better of the image of "me" I've tried so hard to put in front of you? This one curls quicker towards the back of the house; and certainly has been "hurried hard" more than once in this almost half-long life.

...with an open mind (he now demands of himself).

I mean, really all that nonsense... Did I "hate" it because so many of you loved it? Did I love it simply because no one else, or so few had ever heard it or of it... teenaged dreams of a mighty intelligence. Am I tired of cultural elitism hence riding the "so new it's beyond you" wave and really just exploring the pre-popular, again? Am I sick of this self-perceived trend towards stupidity and hiding amongst the esoterica... right in the middle of my own middle to darks ages... Am I sick of having to read the "instruction manual-esq" artistista come radical-rabid waskily-wabbit statement... or, just looking for a roly-poly jolly-good ol' belly laugh?

...and there's where one get's "closer to the heart"... I guess (who)?.

I recently attended an ART opening; and I do mean ART as in capital A. capital R. capital T. art opening. You know all installation-like and sublime? Well hung but utterly "off the mark". I certainly liked what the artist(s) had done "did to the room"... but matching their proposition, the "statement", to the images mounted and the various thingies littered around said, room; truly left me scratching my head. Sadly, the little talk given by one of the "artists" (indeed, it was art by collective, again, after all these years)... the explanation made it no easier not to be kinda, like... just a little unkind, oh well. 

Happily, as is and/or was often the case... the sub-show, the back-up room backup exhibition that these (still with us after all these years) artist-run spaces often mount, at least when the main show(man) doesn't demand the whole darned space, was... exceptional; well worth the walk in the rain to the gallery, the risk of bad-wine and oh-so so-so selection of cheeses. (note, my whine and cheesey elitism will most likely certainly be covered in future diatribe like missives)...

...hey and, scratching one's head ain't all that bad a nights out on the town at the galleries, now... is it!

...and then along came Banksy (again and again)... oh dear, oh dear ol' banksy. Many of your now thousands of images, so wonderful yet SO lost on me for one very simple reason. It's not your fucking property. Seriously, your self important image of yourself, thinking this provides you licence over someone else's "schtuff"... in oh so many ways points directly at the reason why our society is so swiftly-swirling in such quick circles to the bottom of this... guilden-aged-gold-fish-bowl. Sigh... I guess, it does make you think... no? (...of course defacing another's defacements is frowned upon by the defacer contingent so, rule out gut-reaction numero uno)

...ooops, there pops up my "grrrr" gene again.

As an aside... here's a triple side order of links to officially publicly sanctioned public art works that I feel quite equally have answered a Mr. Banksy like pursuits of novel-grandiosities; novel-juxtipositionesh and well even a sublime goofi-ness-like challenge to novelty itself AND our oh-so-scared cows... even... perhap?

Crikey, how I've failed to work the grand and sometimes wonderously grandiose works of Mr. Cristo and the likes of his lovely orange shower curtains into the mix of all of this, god himself only knows.

...oh heck.

It's all good-fun really. Sure I may sound all up-n-at my GRRRRR. Shaking my yet to be thoroughly broken in, nor even yet bought n paid for old man's cursin' and complaining cane (I've one pick out, brass tipped with a rain-forest mahogany shaft and a sadly no longer with us elephant's ivory tusk handle, "grandfathered" no less)....

For now, I'll just waggle my fickly finger of fret ...as I fully intend to keep on liking all the things I really DO like; and perhaps even more so like despising the things that make me blood run boiled for some dumb reason or another... regardless of whether they are anachronistically-new or avant-old... but, or is that and?

I guess, in the end... If you haven't so happily pissed me off while making me smile, or made me laugh while roiling in my own tears, OR simply kept me engagingly entertained through a moment of sheer and utter boredom... if any of you (yes, even you Mr. Bieber) stopped being you, stopped doing the things you do. Well, we'd have nothing but silver jumpsuits, flying cars and televised plot-lines only made-good when the Captain, makes it so and once again, skirts the oh-so-precious Prime Directive, do unto others and all that really worthwhile good stuff.

And with that... I'll lift the aforementioned blessed but not yet bought cussin' cursin' and complaining cane...  in a manner not yet, but soon to be expertised-like mystro of the orchastra-pit-esq - Damn - almost an I finally know I'm absolutely right like manner and say... meh. Here are three POP songs I'll "watch" over and over and any time over n' all... again.

...if we stop making this shit up. We just stop making... Shit, you know what I'm getting at; or at least I hope you do. In the end, or at least much closer to the end than I am to the beginning, it has finally sunk through my thickened skull that none of this matters more or less than anything else, really. What matters is that the makers amongst us keep on making, are encouraged to make... and are rewarded, thanked and or otherwise appreciated for making...

...our lives are better for the the making.

In conclusion... I love all this... (you know what) xo-GG

New York City... As it manifests itself, on a truck, potentially in motion in my memories this morning... I've been drawn, by a friend, to an inspiration of sorts... a conclusion perhaps recently. There is just far too much to miss of that greatest of cities, this glorious home of mine... While at the exact same moment so much to be happy about being back here, at home, moving on to the next, somewhere... 

I doubt anyone will ever truly understand my multilayered love affair with this darling of a place, that "city on the edge of tomorrow"... city at the moment of forever...

I'll just keep feeding you snapshot memories of the millions of little things that I saw... Stories of what I may (and never fully admit to) having done... If a feeling jumps out at you from one of these snap-memory moments of mine... Have at it, it's meant for your enjoyment... Whatever it is you get from it... That's not up to me.  

I (heart) NY... and simply, always will.

Originally posted to my MySpace Blog: the 16 March 2005 @ 7:52pm

(ORIGINAL: TO BE EDITED)

Have you figured it out yet? Determined where it is you are most likely to meet the best of your friends. Undoubtedly you've meet great friends at school, often life long friends. You've likely met good friends at work, sometimes you’ll even know these people for a year or two after you quit that damned-assed horrendous hell-hole of a job… Outside of these, unless of course you’re the church going type, or have another some such hobby; the best friends you meet will most probably be the peoples you meet at your local. 

I have always had a number of “locals” on the go at anyone time. Matter of fact, I have always had at least four or five locals on the go at any given time… just the other day, I realized I had become a regular at this bar at 23rd and 1st, O’Connels. I'd become "a regular" simply for the fact it’s right across from the NYU Dental Center. I’m there once a week these days, So, I have a Local for my trips to the Dentist (one might begin to wonder if I have a problem as well as a long list of locals)… O’Connels offers me up a free shot of Jamison when I pop in post-op condition; my face swollen and stuffed with cotton... I digress, the story of all my locals is likely due; keep your eyes and ears posted… I promise a serious slew of twisted tales… (tales of horror no doubt)

This little ditty isnt about locals; it is about one of my most favorite Irish-Bostonian's, a truly wonderful friend we all call, Doc. My local in Manhattan is a place called the Swan, it’s been my Manhattan local for over six years now. The original New York-ex introduced me to the place mere moments after I had met her. I’ve been hanging off their German taps at the Swan since, since well, before I even moved here. Sadly, I frequent the Swan less and less these days, I mean, it’s not twice a week like it once was… I frequent the Swan now… primarily to see Doc. 

Doc’s is an older gentleman. The term gentleman survives today specifically to describe gentlemen like Doc. He’s older, not that much older than the oldest fella I know, I believe he’s 69. AND… let’s get these facts and stats out of the way already... Doc is 69 he’s a Vietnam Vet, he has been awarded both a Purple Heart AND a Bronze Star [for my Canadian friends, the Bronze Star is the third highest decoration one can achieve in US military service]… He’s a Vet, he’s a retired New York City plastic Surgeon, he’s gay, oh and, keep this to yourself, he is the best damned Republican I have ever had the pleasure to meet. 

Doc and I had struck up our ongoing conversation long before that "disastrous day in the City on the edge of tomorrow"… Doc and I became good friends on the basis of my some idiot might call it courageous, non-homophobic ability to kiss him directly on the lips each time I saw him before we'd say hello; and our ability to carry on a conversation that went way beyond the limits of Rush Limbaugh into the nether worlds where Doc and I would meet on the great plains of democratic [non-partisan democratic mind you] enlightenment. Doc is a true American argument… 

I mean, c’mon, he’s not only gay, a decorated Vietnam Vet, a Republican, he’s also from the Land that cursed family that tried to hoodwink this country into the belief that a bunch of booze running flaming wackos were… ooops, sorry; my bad... Doc is from Boston Massacheustis [a state I cannot not pronounce, cannot spell nor truly figure out]. The brief history of Doc as I have managed to glean from those rare moments he’ll talk about himself… He was born to a working class Irish family up in Boston, in other words, he's from Boston. He has the accent to prove it. Haven’t heard all much of his childhood story, we'll just assume it was everything we'd seen in the movies about, being from… Boston. He got himself through med-school in a peculiar way. It was back in the sixties, he somehow knew, he’d have to serve; an old prof who was stationed at some camp down in South Carolina, got him assigned to the medical core, when that sheltered assignment was up… he could have been re-assigned to say infantry in Germany, or logistic in Korea, but he requested to go to Nam, specifically to continue is medical education… AND to serve a country he once loved more than he may do so now... 

He honestly hasn’t told me much about being a warrior-medic come doctor. He’s mentioned that he saw action, a lot of action. He once told me a bizarre story about setting up camp near this beautiful cove, he’d often swim… he'd alluded to how he rescued a small child from the currents and the sharks in this cove, how he stitched up the little boy after the boy had been bitten (or cut on the rocks, I was never clear which); I noticed he'd swell up a but each time he told and never finished this story. He has still yet to finish THAT story, nor how he was awarded the Bronze Star… But we do have an agreement that he will one day get to that, perhaps the end of this and stories yet started one day.... this is a date, I am very much looking forward to. 

Indeed, it's all a bit sketchy, but he returns from Nam… and skippity-skip-to-lou a whole whack of stories I have yet to any more than partially hear; he became a renowned plastic surgeon in the very one place outside of LA. where a plastic surgeons may be regarded as a being most close to god. Sketchy still, and I can report this to you on the proof of seeing his old apartment, he WAS living the 1960’s / 1970’s dream-Halston lifestyle… 

For those unclear, Halston was in many circles the King of NYC in the late 60’s early 70’s, his fashions and scents put him leap frog years above that silly white haired boy who lived in a loft he called the factory down in the heroin ridden dirty town they called… the "Art World". No ladies, Halston was NYC in the 60’s and 70’s AND Doc’s old apartment stank every inch n' detail of old Mr. Halston… mirrored walls, zebra print bed sheets, red shag deepest of the deep pilke carpets and 100’s of thousand little glass figurines… every where. Doc even had the prerequisite two cute as doodles little poodle doggie dogs who survive to this day all yellowed and mottled at 16 and 18 years of age. 

Doc told me stories of being pulled over by cops in Toronto while breaking red lights in his big old solid gold Roles Royce… He 'Fall's' with his pal Trudy [heir to the scientist who invented no more tears and sold it to Johnson and Johnson], he 'Falls' with Trudy at Villa Desta [along with Donettelo et al]… he’s a once a year Winter regular guest at the Bermuda Beach Club… He has introduced me these friends, good friends, others who own restaurant chains who get chauffeured around town in classic, 70’s era stretch Mercedes Benz limos. He has told me all these stories, introduced me to his friends all in a manner (a true gentlemanly manner) where I never once felt belittled, or subrogated to another class. Doc, my good dear friend, more than many, knows the value of a friendship… I will leave it at that. 

Actually, no maybe I won’t… Here’s a story of good friendship. Last Christmas as I was, in a forgettable state, Doc gave me the greatest gifts a friend could give… and a compliment I've held dear, since. I had a whole big whakin’ pile of problems on my plate… I wandered into the Swan and went through them with Doc… Gordon, he said, you don’t need to be in such a state, or seek therapy… you don’t have a problem, he said, you just have to do what I do and take time off whenever you’re feeling out of control on… 

Gordon, he said, go to the NYU Dental center [across from the VET] on first Ave, they’re cheap and they will fix those problems in your mouth… Gordon he said, you and my then now Original NYC ex will remain good friends… and, you’ll meet someone soon… that night we walked as we talked, up Park, him drinking, while me holding him upright as best I could, it was one of those true and utter beautiful moments in a friendship. His compliment came when he almost chided me (as gentlemen with manners sometimes do): Gordon, he said, my more Scottish name rolling and brolling through the now far more pronounced Boston Irish brogue... 'the nicest thing about you is that you do not present your problems as problems… things you'd like to be solved by your friends.. You do not have drama, you have small issues; issues are so much more easily attended to". I took this compliment, stuck it in my heart and promised myself I would stick with this "manner" of addressing my "issues" with my dear friends until the day... I die… 

Doc has issues himself; he presents them to me as issues, I discuss them with him rationally, and while I am with him, I refuse to express the concern and dread that I may actually feel at the moment he describes them. I offer a fresh bit maybe even a full dollop of empathy, then I walk out of the Swan and onto the L train… nuff said about that. 

I now have only a vague memory of the things I wanted to get up in this piece when I started to write this stuff about my good friend Doc. I think I may have wanted to write about our non-arguments over politics and the general state of the Union [over which Doc and I have buried hours!]. He’s a Republican, I’m a Canadian [and we’ll leave it at that]…  We see eye to eye on about 90% all issues, and share both 2 of our 3 most favorite Presidents… we argue only at the point where he believes in a more Gomorrah-Interpretation of these United States of America  where as I still see a country, an empire, an epoch not yet even truly beginning to take it’s shape in the beautiful history of mankind… Funny thing is Doc and I will argue intensely while holding almost exactly the same point of view… friendship.

I wanted to write about these conversations, but as I got into writing this instead. I believe I may have began to realize, that although the stuff one “talks” about with his friends may be important. It really is the beautiful opportunity to just sit and talk WITH your friends, share the shit, the luck irish. Having someone close, dear and on your wavelength is what makes it all have it's own particularly special and spectacular meaning… 

So this is you craptastic Sap-Master, signing off from this story… I love all of you guys! 

[PS, I take pride in giving my younger friend bits and pieces of dare I say wisdom yet, AND I revel in the advise and examples of their lives, their bits of living they give me… My older friends, the Docs, the Paul, the Charlies to name but a few, I am honored, truly honored, blessed to have their friendship, and to have axcess to their most definatly appropriate to call wisdom… I am beholden to passing the wise advise they give me onto these younger friend of mine… 

Meanwhile, I continue to live as, or like an Irish… Potatoe.

A sudden feeling of flush came across my furled brow on the drive into, just where is it I'm off to again these daze, oh right, the coffee shop-office, the place where all of us do our work ath this juncture of this 21st century. In my case, a sweet little barn of a room called The Grind. Off to the grind this morning, Bran Van 3000's Drinkin In LA comes across my oh-so-mixed up and happy Suzuki Areo Speedwagon play list. "Hi, my name is stereo Mike…"

"What the hell am I doin' drinking in LA at…" brought back a memory, not a best memory; certainly not the highlight of my life, drinking career, or career for that matter. Just a little an almost lost little memory. A bit of fun I once had, probably three lifetimes ago (if counting). Certainly well before LA became a defacto, must be arch rival enemy city-state of mine as I settled into my first, second, maybe it was my third and final attempt to nourish my inner New Yorker. It was my second trip to LA, I thought I'd had the place figured out by then.

We'd been given the opportunity to fly down to visit the ex-First Woman Prime Minister (of Canada) Kim Campbell in the LA home they'd given her as a big ol' thank you for being the First Woman Prime Minister (of Canada), and losing us (them, not me in any case), the election. Likely one of those, quick, get the guy/gal outta dodge before she get's lynched by the faithful moves. Anyhow, here in LA, I found myself, little ol' me, all suited up and ready to roll in his best Dick VanDyke goes to church in New Rochelle toggs, sipping wine (coolers?) and munching on canopé in the house of the Canadian atché to this or that cultural woo-ha-ha or something like that. The complete lack of "stars" was telling; I would learn later that night… there are more glorious stars in LA than originally counted.

Now, when your old pal GoGo ends up at a suaré, one of two many Go's is bound not to show; I'll either be you know, "that guy" standing over there, you know (all by himself), or the other guy, gob-handing and yickity-yacking with any and all everyones who'd be willing to listen to whatever gibberish is dripping out at any particular given moment. If I recall, at this particular do; I was somewhere in the middle of this guy and that... guy. Almost lost behind the ginormous girth of one, and the sheer stupidity of the other "new" business partners who'd dragged me across the country so they could canoodle with their inbred-industrial money-burnin' associates in the TV and film industry (oops, are my under-bitter-pants still showing)? - If I further recall, I was "on it" and generally having a good time.

Of course, having been recently un-married and singled, AND in LA and younger and almost as stupid as I'd ever be… I was indeed ogling the babes (as if I've ever had a single oggle-driven positive result). Sadly, Kim Campbell ex-First Woman Prime Minister (of Canada)'s parties didn't draw too great a bevy of, are they broads or dames? I found myself in a wonderfully pleasant conversation with, if I even further recall one of ol' Kimmy's personal aides. I have only a vague recollection of the young lady, her age, name and "number" escape me; all I recall is that the conversation was bright n' lively, she had a similar suspicion of the crowd we were in and… I'm pretty sure she was a Brunette.

I haven't a clue how it happened, but I guess I let it drop that I had later plans. Whether I asked her or she simply decided to tag along is beyond me; likely the latter as I'm dreadful at "the pick up" line… I think mine's worked out once. So, (for the sake of this story) let's call her Alice and I ended up in my car and off to you'll never guess where.

The first time I went to LA, I didn't have the slightest clue. My Eastern Seaboard / Midwestern Toronto upbringing left me to assume that all cities were the same and, if you simply looked hard enough you'd find a nice little neighbourhood, compacted with this restaurant and that bar and this little grouping of things you could do before sauntering off to the next neighbourhood right there next door. I think our cab driver was stunned when we asked him to drop us off on, in general, along somewhere on the sunset strip, anywhere, you know, where the action is, was or would be… he dropped us at something like 10,678; after wandering (quite) a bit, we found a place for a beer at, like, dude 8,456 Sunset Boulevard  This second trip, I rented a car.

Here's "Alice" and I cruising the freeways of LA, out of the city at super high speeds (for a Canadian). I'd pre-arranged and researched where all the "rave parties" would be held while I was in the city. What this recently singled early 30 sumpthin' bonehead was thinking… well that's a whole other story. I guess Alice had thought she might help this silly man drive out of the city to search for the third dry lake bed to the left of some place or other in search of his "the kids"… Quickly, here's a dry lake bed travel tip… Although dry lake beds are flat as flat can be and super fun to dry upon in the middle of a pitch black night under the stars… the roads leading up to them shouldn't really be considered when responsible for the condition upon returning your rented black, convertible Ford Mustang… BUT OH, those stars of LA, just outside the city.

It took us what felt like hours to find my kids, perhaps twenty of them dancing by their make-shift car stereo super-sound system, while juggling glow sticks and marvelling how this Dick VanDyke of a Canadian guy and some sweet woman named Alice had managed to maneuver themselves in such a manner as get a Mustang up and over the ruts on the roads leading to the dry lake so they could crash their little private party out in the pitch black middle of the night in the absolute middle of nowhere somewhere north of the City of LA. - We were kind of surprised ourselves I guess; and pretty much turned right around.

I recall quite fondly the quiet ride back to the City. A couple of lost "once were kids" in an open roofed car, laughing to themselves a wee little bit; not really talking likely totally exhausted and dying to get back to wherever it was they could simply shower and jump into bed. And, it's not what you're thinking… I dropped her in some lonely suburb out on the freeways, she pointed me in the direction of Santa Monica and thanked me for a wonderful evening. I sped away halfway tired and thinking how lucky I was to meet such a wonderfully nice person… thinking of the stars so damned close that you'd almost felt you might need to put up the top of your opened roofed car that you'd forgot now was rented. A now totally ruined black Ford Mustang covered in dry Lake Bed (with luckily no dents in the paint job). I'd likely forgotten how how close I'd come to ruining a moment by dropping the ecstasy I'd smuggle across the boarder on my way to Kim, the ex-First Woman Prime Minister's party… nope, just a nice drive back to my hotel room, to shower and sleep and then hit what was then the AOL chat boards to find out where best to look for "the kids" and find next night's wild, fun goofy little party…

…I found them. Or, perhaps… they found me.

Hmmm… thawed out of a western winter-peg icecube, laid out bared to be baked by the bay they call Quinte; sautéd and rapidly stirred-up in wee-little Brighton then tossed up the highway to be quick-fried on Queen street and stuffed into cannoli on College. Kneaded and pulled up and all over Toronto. Then put into the pan and flung down the freeway to be boiled in Brooklyn; simmered in juices of my own making in Greenpoint then poured softly and slowly into lower Manhattan. Tickled n' pickled on the playgrounds of Greenwich then mashed into mince meat in Dumbo under my bridges... I popped out of that toaster all of a sudden, and landed in… Trenton… Where I am from? Oh who only knows.. Southeastern Ontario, next to the rocks, water and trees over by that river, right over there, where I've been all along, served whole or raw, a little well done, sometimes fresh never frozen, sometimes rotten as cheese. ...you tell us; now how we're doing, as we aim to... to (be) easy.

Originally published to MySpace Blog: February 25th, 2005, 3:13pm - New York City

ORIGINAL - TO BE EDITED

This ol' story starts with small notice for the potential for evilness in small small town Ontario. Let me start this saying "yo Canada, get over yourself, and get off your high frikin' horse". 

I became really good friends with Ken on the weekend I realized that the whole black/white racism thing was not strictly the purview of these slave driving bastards down here in my newly adopted home. That weekend, Ken and I were assigned to the same group in our Urban Geography class that had been contracted by the local BDIA to canvas Brighton upon a survey of proposed improvements to this and/or that in town. 

Of course the first thing Ken and I did was to spark a great big fatty prior to setting out to knock on the doors of our assigned neighbourhood  Now, I guarantee you, it wasn't that we reeked of weed, as every door I knocked on offered someone who would answered the 15 or so questions I asked. Ken's doors on the other hand yielded nothing, well nothing but "no thank you's", "what are you doing heres" and a least one nigger reference that Ken would not expand on...  Hey, maybe it was the Combination of a nigger  AND HIS reeking of dope, who the heck knows. We ended up forging the rest of our surveys, our neighbourhood firmly apposed the improvements, drove to the beach and hung for the remainder of the day. 

In general circulation, even though he was only one of three black kids in the entire student population, in general circulation, Ken had very few problems. I guess showing up on these folks doorsteps was just a line he was not supposed to cross. I don't recall the subject ever coming up, but I assume him dating one of their daughters would have stretched the line as well. Hmmm... actually maybe I do recall something like this coming up once... 

Ken, entirely on his own, is probably the most talented musician, singer songwriter I've known personally, and I've known quite a few very talented musicians. One goofy little snippet memory I have of his being the cool daddy jack-assie smart-assed-dude we expect our musicians to be came during a school assembly. Ken, although his first talent being piano played what he might call his 15th talent, Bass, in our school band [I mean, c'mon, if the drums were fulled up, I guess the next place you're gonna stick the black kid is the bass]. 

Anyhow, Ken did get his kicks in, I remember making eye contact with Ken at during a break in the assembly, he gave me a little nod and proceeded to crack out the bass line to "Watching the Detectives", yet another small offensive in our ongoing attempts to be punk-dudes in our corn-paddy back-water high school come holding cell. Ken came from, rather, at the time I knew him, lived in the trailer park down the road from my place. It was probably that fact, more than the fact he was black that my folks were always a bit leery of our friendship, actually, I could guarantee you this. On the days when his bitch of a hard hittin' pill addicted mother let him out of the trailer, or on days were he'd just plain managed to escape, we'd usually just hang in my room. 

He'd strum the guitar I never did manage to learn how to play, usually cracklin' joke songs. I'd sit there, either drawing one of my silly fancifuls, or making lame-assed attempts to draw him. We'd talk politics and pop outside from time to time to smoke the spliffs [of course, this may also my have impacted my folks feelings about my friendship with Ken]. Ken was a manic writer. Back then he'd carry around note books full of songs. Prolific, he was probably knocking out two or three a day. I think he carried these books around more so that his mother would not find them or that his A.D.D. brother wouldn't rip them to shreds. 

Ken was the son of a Jazz musician from Montreal, a good friend of Oscar Peterson, but was living with a woman who hated the musician who had knocked her up and left her with nothing but two black kids living in a trailer park. The hatred of this musician ultimately soon applied to all musicians, Ken was in a bit of a jam. 

Ken and I drifted apart after I stopped smokin' dubes. The drift apart was formalized with my sudden bolting to Toronto [another story]. However, this separation was the start of a new form of relationship I would soon have with Ken. Like an angel, Ken drifts into and out of my life, usually drifting in at the exact moment I need him the most. Maybe I'll start calling him my "dark angel"... I probably will not. 

Ken's music is peppered with sardonic wit, he brings this wit and this music into my life at beautifully irregular interval. Our first happen-stance meeting after the high school days was when he found me living about five blocks from where he was living. He had been checked into some psychiatric out patient residence.. He was in pretty rough "out patient" shape. I think I learned some humility or at least found myself humiliated by my inability to help him out in any tangible way. I was down myself, busted and unable to offer him anything more than a few nights of reminiscence  

A few years later, quite a few actually, he came to me while I was yoggleing in some bar by myself, probably morning the loss of losing some this girl or that. He was flogging his first CD, carrying a baby in a papoose strapped to his chest. I bought two CDs and persisted in my assertion that I'd track him down... I didn't, but of course he found me again a few years after that, this time he invited me to hook up with him at his now regular gig. 

His regular gig turned out to be a "piano bar" night at some up town trendy spot. Ken not only played beautiful bar jazz, but had also tuned his sardonic wit into that in-between song patter that makes lounge singers famous. Of course fame continued to allude, regardless of how deserving he was. I caught that gig for a month or so. I was between "wives", so I had a whole big bunch of dates to fill on the calendar. This was a great way to fill them. 

We hung out a few times outside the gigs as well, I recall helping him set up his piano in some park to crank out some impromptu set, saw him at his usual yearly gig or two at the Toronto Jazz Festival, then poof, he was gone again. I've seen him, you know brief run ins on the street a few times since, obviously no times since moving down here to Brooklyn. I googled him the other day, last I read of him. Apparently he's living in Stratford, or at least was so back in 2000. I emailed him, and added him to my buddy list. It would be absolutely grand if he'd contact me and I could waggle him down for a visit. This would be the perfect time to have a visit from my dark-angel.

(to be edited)

Originally posted to Tumblr: June, 10th, 2013, from Trenton, Ontario, Canada

DEAR, (OH SO) PROGRESSIVE, WARM AND SENSITIVE TORONTO BUDDIES ‘N PALS OF MINE

I do hope you’re enjoying the final flaying of the evil despot of a man known to me simply as Mayor Bonehead. It’s been what now, three+ long years since his elevation to the exalted position of (he giggles) Lord ‘n Mayor of the MOST IMPORTANT city on this planet Earth! Three long years of gray dull doltish Don Cherry-esq skull-drudgery are behind you. Elation!

Lemme give you fair warning, loosely lifted from the pages of that book we all read back in grade school. As your orgy-istic bon fire of absolute delight subsides, watched out for the flies… I’m sure some of you may already be feeling a bit of a twinge as you so easily find yourself ripping & tearing and gorging upon the flesh of your slain PIG. - it’s just a little pig, In a round about way kind of a cute but not at all cuddly pig, but a sad little pig… really… 

Now, you’re all really nice people, I love you to death; your ideals and thoughts DO inspire me, make me listen and think (often twice). I watch you post warm and loving pictures of family and friend and take pleasure in the joy you share with me here.

It would be un-friend-like for me not to leave you beware - your PIG has been slain and is indeed laying as dead as dead meat. All I’ll say is… beware the next PIG. He/She may just be the fox you’ve all actually been dreading.

xo- Happy Long Long Weekend Hunter Warrior Pals!

Original:  March 1st, 2005, MySpace blog, Written IN: New York, New York, 3:08 PM

It has been pointed out to me recently that my wee stories have been becoming, well, just a bit to sappy. The Sacrin content has elevated these little dities to the point were one has to wash the sticky goo from their hands immediately upon reading. OK, I can take this, I mean, I guess I can drop my bid to be the Greenpoint representative at the upcoming city wide Sap-Master Sapptastic-Man competitions… 

I guess I could just up and stop trying to find my feminine side. I guess I could let my pubes grow out again, get ‘em stuck in my fly a few times and grow back the snarling angry-man that we all so knew and loved… Sure thing there bubs, I’ll start standing erect, stop mopin’ about in a constant state of maudlinistic despair. As of today, I’ll start eating my toast raw, drinking my beer warm and my whisky straight. I’ll dig out my old porn collection and start falling asleep to that rather than those documentaries by Ken Burns I’ve been falling asleep to recently. 

I’ll pay closer attention to Leni Briscoe and turn off Law and Order the minute Sam Waterson’s character opens his trap [even though we do see eye to eye on at least the death penalty]. You know, the best damned Cuban Sandwich is definitely being served up at a little place on 25th Street between 6th and Broadway. I believe the place is called “The Spanish Restaurant”, of course that could easily just be a sign telling you what it is. 

This place is a classic, a classic midtown lunch joint with a counter a small seating section in the back and take out and delivery flying out the door faster than you can say “there goes another illegal alien riding a shitty bike”. I prefer the counter where the dance of the 17 waitresses spins out of control inches from your food, the salsa blares only to be droned out by the near constant barking of orders in a Spanish so raunchy I’m assuming even they’re using it incorrectly. Now, this sandwich, this Cuban sandwich is the best I have had anywhere I’ve been in the world. AND, unlike all you Yankee-doodle wing-nuts, anywhere in the world for me includes Cuba. 


So listen up. This Cuban sandwich isn’t of the frilly willy variety, this bitch is 100% pure hardcore lunch-eating goodness, read, no frikin’ AVACADO! It’s got your pork, your ham, your cheese and pickle, BANG, that’s it, LUNCH. It’s made honestly, I mean the pork looks like it was carved off the roast with a hammer; the ham perhaps somewhat more delicately hacked off the bone with a dull tree-saw. The roll is an honest chunk of bread, crushed and burnt to perfection under the weight of the griller. And when I say weight of the griller, I mean the guy grilling the damn thing pretty near sits on top of it; these puppies are flat, fresh and filling. 

So, if you want a good Cuban Sandwich, I mean really want one, you’re a tard, a complete frikin’ tard if you go anywhere else. Myself, I doubt I’ll ever eat lunch anywhere else again. I mean, I’m what you call a super-regular… I fell in love with a steak sandwich at a little diner in Toronto one day, afterwhich I ate lunch at this place every workday for four and a half years. Hey, when I got a new job in a different ‘hood, I made a point of going to this one diner for that one sandwich at least once every weekend. Matter of fact, the first time I went back to Toronto after moving here, it’d been two years, I went into this place to order the sandwich, the ol’ broad at the counter looked at me, asked why I hadn’t been around for a while and asked me if I wanted my usual steak sandwich. Best damned Steak on a Kaiser, Best damned Cuban on earth, guaranteed no sappy content. 

My cheeks are clenched so tightly right now I’m afraid I’m going to suck a hole through my gitch just getting this damned thing out. 100% sap FREE content indeed.

POSTED: Dec 13, 2005, MySpace, Toronto, Ontario, Time of the day… 10:19 AM

Wont be there to watch four new Mark Bars open each summer. Wont be there to watch coffee prices rise and people laughing about it. I wont be there as one by one the cheaper apartments are vacated by long local families, painted and rented at twice the price. I wont be there to see Elvis for the last time; or watch Frankie’s mom get hosed. 

I wont be there to see Helen and Tommy, slowly and painfully squeezed out of the one last remaining local; Tommy’s fault perhaps, but Helen’s tanacity will only allow for a whithering, rather than a conversion… I hear they’re closing the “Crack Hotel”. 

I hear that they’ll be booting out Patrick, Elvis and Fozzie… I hear that Greenpoint is becoming another moment in time, a moment in time us vagabonds have seen over and over and over again. Where is Parkdale; Queen Street; The West and East Villages… Where is Williamsburg and Dumbo… Bedstuy, Harlem and the South Bronx on the verge… 

Where is the Northeastern inner city; where is North America? I hear that rents are cheap and the sunsets are lovely. I hear that the people are warm and friendly; and that they are eager to build their country. I hear that the jungle remains untouched, and that you can drink from every stream up stream of the last toilet on the hill. 

We’ll hear the blast of the steam whistle on this weeks arriving cruise ship… and we’ll hope we’ll be there at least ten years before the all-inclusive starbucks jungle island eco-resort lays waste another mini-paradise.

Just when you were all up and ready to chuck out the balance of what you at times foolishly felt was a somewhat abnormal life-time of sad little troubles; you're struck by an em-blazoned in a flash of greyed streak n' revelation that meh... It ain't much different than the shit the rest of "them" have had to face... day in... day...

Then...! one of these puppies flies overhead and... sigh... recalling the gripings heard last labor day over the noise the City of Toronto is subjected the too during the air circus... you lift n' shake your old man cursin' cane and cry out...

Personally, I LOVE the grinding roar of jets overhead; and am totally one-day-blessed that growing up in this little military berg, home to Canada's largest air force base, gave me an ear to distinguish, if not make and model, size and mission.

Now, where are my ben... er, I meant my danged reading glasses.